Grind Grind Grind = Double Standard

Goodmorning Beautiful People, I hope all is well. I had an interesting conversation last week and it has stuck with me. Must need to share it........

Last week was pretty hectic because I had midterms and was working more hours. My mind was racing on 15 different tasks I needed to complete. So after I left one of my classes that didn't end until 9pm, I headed to the library. My hood was up and headphone in my ears. I was not in the mood to talk to anyone. I tend to block out the world when I'm trying to get things accomplished. Well, while I was making copies, my Charles Hamilton song was interrupted. I looked up to see a young male asking about a printer that they moved to the front of the library. I informed him of the location and quickly went back to what I was doing previously. In the next 20 seconds I looked up again and saw him still standing there.

I promptly paused my ipod and asked him if it was anything else I could help him with.

He just shook his head and asked, "Why do you always have your ipod in you ears? It seems like you always try to block out the world and you don't want to be bother by anyone all the time."

I simply cracked a half smile and responded " You're right, I don't like being bother by people and yes I tend to block out people and drama around me. I'm just simply focus, that's all."

He was pretty shocked at my reply. You can tell he's been curious about my behavior for awhile.

He asked, "Why is that?"

My response, " If I was a male you wouldn't have thought twice about my actions. If I was a male who kept on my headphones on and you saw me doing my work each day it would be totally different. You would just have given kudos on that young male staying on his grind and trying to make moves."

He did a sly smile and responded,"I can't even argue that point. You're right.You just don't see many females with your mindset. Most females number one priority is there relationship and boyfriend, So do you even have a boyfriend?"

My response got a tadbit loud and had to remind myself I was still in the library, " No sir, I do not have boyfriend. This is the farthest issue from my mind right now in life. I'm just focused! Why is this so hard for you to understand??"

He was starteld but clearly still curious,"Oh don't take this the wrong way but are you one of those bitter women who think all males are dogs?"

By this time I had went back to copying because i didn't have time for this mess.

I paused again and looked at him and stated "I don't understand why this concept is so hard for you to grasp but I'm focused. That's all! Why does every female mentality have to be wrapped around a male?? It's funny because a female very rarely takes away a male focus in life but a male easily will distract a female from her goals and dreams. No, I'm not bitter. Yes their are good males somewhere in this world but I'm definitely not going to wait and wrap my life around one. AND even if I did have a boyfriend I would be acting the same way. My boyfriend would be focused and we would still be making moves on our own. Did I answer all of your questions???"

His apologetic reply, "Yeah you did, I would just hate to see someone like you to ever become bitter towards love. It was nice to meet you still."

My tired reply, "Thank you for your concern. I will be fine.Nice to meet you also"

Womp Womp Womp.. Any thoughts. I don't know its interesting because after that conversation i noticed that other females I would talk to had to have some sort of male in their life. If not boyfriend to boyfriend, it was a friend with benefits just so they don't feel lonely. I'm knocking anyone in a relationship but in this age range I can tell that if is a difficult task to balance both.

Guess what?? I have a small secret??here it goes.........

"YOU WILL NOT MELT IF YOU'RE SINGLE. I PROMISE IT'S NOT A DISEASE"

Live, Laugh, Love, Pick up new hobbies, dance around learn how to cook:)(by the way my boneless chicken breast were pretty good if I say so myself) live in a dream, live health conscious, most important develop your Spiritual Relationship..the list can go on but this shows how much you can do in life....without losing yourself in someone else.

Miracles & Blessings

God Bless